The first month of the relationship, they say, is the time when two people set the rules of the game between them. If you miss that moment, afterwards it will be way too hard to set new rules that will last. And it’s not only about the shares of housework each one of the two gets; it’s also about a more general attitude to be adopted in the couple.
Don’t make compromises with yourself. If you are going to compromise, only to feel bad about it, then – don’t! The reason you are together is because you feel good with each other, don’t let that change.
A friend of mine, with almost 30 years of experience in marriage, told me once “If, because of him, you are asking yourself whether you should stop doing/saying/thinking something, then that’s not your man. He must love you for who you are, not for who you become when you are pretending.”
On the other hand, pretending is a sort of an insult to the intelligence of your partner. Why do you think they won’t notice? Why do you think they would want to be fooled? Why do you think they deserve to be deceived? How would you feel if you find out that they were pretending, too?
Don’t get me wrong, a hint of mystery is quite charming, but it has nothing to do with the lack of honesty in the couple.
Be brave and act on the spot! Nobody is going to do it for you.
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