Don’t give me that look of “She has no idea what she’s talking about”, because you know exactly how awfully right this statement is.
Recently I realized that I’m repeating the same mistake over and over again. The worst thing is not the mistake itself, but the fact that I realize it’s a mistake even while I’m doing it. What’s my mistake? – Tolerate and be patient beyong reasonable limits, which means - be too scared to make decisions.
Are you able to take a prompt/timely decision when it comes to feelings? Are you able to cut someone out of your life (personal or professional) just because they are not who you wished them to be? I don’t know about you, but my answer, would be – Unfortunately, no.
It’s really unfortunate, because at the end of the day they will come saying “I didn’t ask you to make compromises.” And they will be right, so before you stab them in the heart – stop, breathe and read the “Nothing personal” post. :-P
Ok, now we settled – no stabbing or shouting and let alone crying. But how do you handle the situation? How do you feel about yourself, knowing that you have made the wrong choice?
Well, wise people say you should forgive yourself. Forgive yourself the fact that you feel bad about this situation in the first place. I say, focus on the positive experiences you had with that person and look forward to meeting someone else – more interesting and appropriate for you or being free again! Both options are much better than fooling yourself about someone else’s qualities.
The next advice is to let that person go. But don’t just let them go, before you do that – forgive them. Forgive them for not treating you as you wanted to be treated, forgive them for not being the person you wanted them to be. Forgive them and let them free.
Louise Hay says that all the illnesses come from not being able to forgive. So don’t opt for carrying that burden. After all, it is you who are suffering – be kind to yourself and do what’s best for you – forgive.
There are a number of cute quotes about people from your past or the thoughts that shape your future, but I will say that whatever is happening or not – is for your own good and you better trust me on this one.
So, now that all the emotional turmoil is in the past, you’ve added a brand new, enriching experience that has made you stronger, wiser and.. yeah, why not – a little bit more confident in your own strength to handle even the stinky situations!
Way to go, my dear!
